Balance. For most of us, balance is like that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. We search and search but it always seems to elude us. Life gets busy, we get out of balance, we don’t take care of ourselves (on it goes). Balance is a tricky word that has been used to death for the last few years, because we seem to have figured out it’s the key to happiness.
But what is balance? There in lies the question.
Well, I’ve got some good news and I’ve got some bad news. The bad news is, you’re not going to find it. Sorry, but it’s not hiding at the bottom of your underwear draw or in the back of your closet waiting to be found.
You won’t find it, because you have the CREATE it.
About 3 months after I started my lifestyle change, my Mum sent me a quote that read:
‘Balance is not something you find, it’s something you create’.
It was the epiphany of all epiphany’s. Lightbulbs & fireworks were going off in my head. Up until that day, I truly believed I was on a quest to ‘find balance’. I realised in that moment I wasn’t on a search for balance, I was creating it, day by day. I felt powerful.
I felt in control, and I’ve felt that way ever since. Completely liberating!
This is the good news – it’s up to you. We need to give up the notion that we’re on some kind of treasure hunt. This is something that is in our control. We make decisions every day that throw our lives out of balance, and I don’t want to sound like a Mum, but you have to learn to make better choices. I’m always saying this to Aiden, and I got to the point where I knew I needed to do it for myself as well. Say No sometimes (can you imagine?), do something for yourself or someone else that makes you feel good.
Take time to be grateful, love & laugh, play with your kids, eat nourishing food, fuel yourself. Your future self will thank you for it, I promise.
This may fall into the category of ‘Easier said than done’, and I totally get that, I really do. But if not now, when? Remember that small changes can make a world of difference, make conscious choices, be mindful. Two years ago I was in an absolutely world of pain when it came to balance in my life. I was so busy I was miserable, I took on too much because I thought I was superwoman. I was stressed out – ALL that time and all areas of my life and relationships suffered.
Long before my huge change in lifestyle began, I made a series of decisions that ultimately made way for it. I let some things go, I made some pretty big changes, I started to say No – and once I’d done that, I had enough head space and reflection to know that I needed to make that BIG step. Without doing those preliminary things, I may still be 27kgs heavier, unhappy in my skin and terribly unhealthy. Rome wasn’t built in a day friends.
I don’t have it all figured it out, but I have a lot more figured out than I used to. Life is about progress and making choices. I’m happy. When I’m happy, my family is happy – it creates a huge ripple effect.
So ask yourself, what is standing in your way of making that big change?
What things could you change to start creating more balance in YOUR life?